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Week 2 - You Can Still Celebrate Valentine's Day

Song of Solomon 8:5 & 6 Who is this that cometh up from the wildernes, leaning upon her beloved?...Set me as a seal upon thine heart, as a seal upon thine arm: for love is strong as death;...

During this Valentine month, I would like to bring up a subject that is unavoidable in living the life of a single and having male-female relationships. That subject is Breaking Up. There is a song that I am reminded of from some years ago sung by the Carpenters, "Breaking Up Is Hard To Do."

When Valentine's Day comes around, some are in remembrance of having been in a relationship this time last year and now, nada, nothing, zip. Others are wishing that someone was in their life so that they could purchase or receive one of those little Valentine's trinkets that are now on sale. While some others are thanking God that they don't have to be involved in this February ritual of the heart. This article is to address those singles who are remembering having been in what they considered a good male-female relationship and are now without that "special someone" and to those who are expecting to be in a special male-female relationship in the future.

Notice in the verse of scripture above, the part that says, "...love is strong as death;" The emotions you go through at a break up are oftentimes as strong as the emotions you feel when someone close to you dies. Here is some good news, are you ready for it? That person that you have broken off with is not dead.

If you had been making plans to share your future life with that person, you may feel that your life is now over. More good news, are you ready for it? Your life is not over. You're reading this article. You're still alive.

Interesting thing about this is that breaking up with someone happens in the body of Christ as well as outside the body of Christ. However, God has given us something in His Word to mimimize the affects.

What then are we humans dealing with in this situation? Emotions. A definition of emotion, taken from a book titled: Psychology and Life is, "A complex pattern of bodily and mental changes that includes physiological arousal, feelings, cognitive processes and behavioral reactions made in response to a situation perceived as personally significant." (Kleinginna & Kleinginna, 1981)

Whether something happens in our life that makes us estatically happy and we rejoice with a scream or something heart-wrenching takes place which perceived significance to our life makes us sad and we respond by crying or have the feeling of wanting to cry, we categorize it as emotions. Often we say our heart aches.

Is a break up, personally significant? Yes. Is it terminally significant? No. Emotions should not be the deciding factor that governs the Christian's life. Faith should be the deciding factor that governs. So, once you have done your grieving, then it is time to get your faith on track. You shouldn't allow grieving to go on very long, remember, that person is not dead.    
    In this article's opening scripture, it says, "Set me as a seal upon thine heart,..." This is the way the Christian single exercises damage control. This scripture is giving directions. This is something you will have to do. In Proverbs 3:26 it says, "For the Lord shall be thy confidence, and shall keep thy foot from being taken." The Hebrew word translated here for taken is "something to capture with, i.e. a noose." The word foot is from the Hebrew translated "foot (as used in walking) by implication a step." In other words, by placing your confidence in God, He will keep you from tripping by way of a noose or trap set for you as you take steps in his plan for your life. The enemy has many traps set for you. He will use what ever he can to get you to take your eyes off of God's direction for your life. He will use what he can to test your faith in God fulfilling His Word to you. That includes using relationships.  
Do people fall head over heels in love any more? I don't know. However, if you want to survive emotionally secure until you get to the relationship that is the one to end all others, you will need to set the Lord as a seal upon your heart.

Seal in this case comes from the Hebrew word translated "signature ring: - seal; signet" The Webster dictionary defines seal as: something that confirms, ratifies, or makes secure - Guarantee, Assurance... b. a closure that must be broken to be opened and that thus reveals tampering. My signature on a paper means that what is written is mine, I approve the content. The seal on a letter in the days of the writing of this scripture would let the person who is accepting the letter know whom the letter is from and that it is intact, not tampered with, whole, you might say. Setting God as a seal upon your heart will preserve your heart whole so that the Holy Spirit will be able to deliver you intact to your future mate.

    Does that eliminate trust in relationships? No. It does, however, point your first trust in the right direction. Will this squelch romance in relationships? No. However, with God in charge of your heart in the future relationship, romance may just be that lasting, end result of your healthy, male-female, adult relationship. Remember the first line of our opening scripture.

Song of Solomon 8:5, "Who is this that cometh up from the wilderness, leaning upon her beloved?" God is Faithful.
    Until then, go ahead, celebrate Valentine's Day, because you are loved. For, "Greater love hath no man than this, that a man lay down his life for his friends. Ye are my friends, if ye do whatsoever I command you." John 15:13 & 14  
Check out the book corner. Single and Wanting to be Married.. is available. Lots of the Word of God on the topic.    
Continued in March....
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