Is there a difference between the thinking of the 20 and 30 something year-old single male and the 40 and 50 something never-married single male's thinking about getting married? I will share some information on that subject in the next article. In the meanwhile, first, view this film clip released by Columbia Pictures in 1955. Then view the conclusion on "HERS" page. It is quite humorous.


God created male and female. Genesis 2:27 “So God created man in his own image, in the image of God created he him; male and female created he them.” This is where it all began for humans. Man created first with the woman inside him to be presented to him, at a later time, to be his help. Now I will fast forward.

FootballPlayerI have been watching football on television lately, and I ask myself, should women be permitted to compete in the sport along side the men? I think not. I also have been keeping up with the presidential primaries. I ask myself, do I want to see a female run this country? I won’t answer that now, but I will share with you my thoughts for today.

In many cases, becoming single due to divorce has left females with joint or full custody of their children, which requires her to be the head of her household instead of being the helper. On another note, there are an increasing number of single females who are professionals, 40 or more years old and never married. These women have left their father's house, gone to school, gotten an education and are now competing with men for the same jobs.

What is a man to do? One guy I spoke with told me a man would let the woman have the authority if she wants it. He will let her take the pressure and responsibility that he would normally assume. The man will then kick back and enjoy life.

Once the woman has taken the authority, she has created her own problem. She runs things rather smoothly and to her pleasure. She accomplishes, in her opinion, what needs to be done. The problem then is, whatever authority she has taken from the male, she can’t give it back because she has accomplished this her way. She has created for herself a conundrum. Something like a commercial that used to run on television. A woman saying, "I can bring home the bacon, fry it up in a pan and never never never let you forget you're a man." This woman was obviously on drugs. Advice to the ladies, get the wisdom of God involved in all that you do. Be willing to trust your Father.

I have been told in discussions with guys that they have to deal with the fear of rejection all the time when it comes to approaching a female of interest. But, what a man wants, he will surely go after if he wants it bad enough. I’ll give you an example. Last year at my church, we had a 4th of July celebration. It was open to the public. We had concession stands set up in the parking lots. I was a volunteer at the hamburger and hot dog concession. The weather was warm with a little cloud cover. As the clouds passed, it got hot. The line at the hamburger and hotdog concession was very long. It wrapped in a snake-like fashion. There was at least a 30-45 minute wait to get to the front of the line for food. As time passed, I noticed a strikingly handsome gentleman in the line. He had maybe 5 more minutes before he got to me to order his food. I did my best not to stare at him. Being single, I couldn’t afford to give the impression of desperation. I looked at everything but him. I looked at the ground; I looked at the sky. You know the routine ladies. When he got to the head of the line, he ordered his food and paid for it. Then he leaned over and motioned me to come over so he could tell me something. He whispered in my ear, “I think you are very pretty.” I thanked him, blushed a bit. Then he was gone. (I have to admit that for the rest of that evening, I looked for him to come back to talk with me. He didn't. Bummer!) Back to my point. This guy didn’t have to tell me that. The situation was not conducive to that. I came away from that thinking that if a man wants to speak with you, he’ll do it. Ladies, you continue to be your pretty little self, he is made to be the hunter.

Next thought: are women faster and smarter than men are? I think it is unfair and unwise to compare one with the other. Men and women are different. Men have strengths that are given to them by God. We women admire that in men. Women also have strengths that God has given them. The challenge is to encourage men be men and encourage women to be women. How does the single woman running her life by her rules keep her feminine edge? Hmmm. What is being promoted to the male of our species? Are they looking to have life for them made easy? Have we women decided that we won’t need to be treated as the weaker/softer vessel because some men have, unlike their Father God, abused that “weaker vessel” verse of scripture? (I Peter 3:7 “Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them (women) according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered.”)



The following are questions to be answered.

  1. Have the days of a man offering to open the door for a woman ended? Chivalry

2. Is the born-again man no longer willing to pay for the meal on a date? Guys, is it worth asking the Father for His help?


3. Is the Christian man now expecting to marry so he can have a wife to work thus increasing his finances?

4. Are men who would be married seeing themselves as one day becoming the leader of their family?

5. Has society in this generation treated the male so poorly that they have lost their desire to lead by example?

6. Have Christian men discovered that their Father God will not only supply their personal financial need but also will supply what the man needs to date a female or court her and marry her if it comes to that?

There is a surge of new sitcoms that often paint the picture of men as being incompetent. This could be a ruse of Satan to destroy the order that God has established for the success of his creation. As in the time of Samson and Delilah, God’s man should AdamEvenot give up his strength. Or as Adam in the garden, our men should not rely on the woman to take the lead in hearing from God.

Jesus was an example of a man’s man and he imparted to other men what his father God taught him. Jesus was a leader among men. He knew his assignment from the Father and spent his life carrying it out. Matthew 4:18 and Luke 5:10 tells of the selection of the disciples by Jesus. Some may say that women are equal to men in everything. I disagree. Men have an inherent strength that is God given. There is a reason God made Adam and then gave him a helpmate.

When God made covenant with Abraham, He established circumcision of the male not the female. Genesis 17:10&11 “This is my covenant, which ye shall keep, between me and you and thy seed after thee; Every man child among you shall be circumcised. And ye shall circumcise the flesh of your foreskin; and it shall be a token of the covenant betwixt me and you.” Also, later when Joshua led the people out of the wilderness and to the Promised Land, the covenant was continued. Joshua 5:2 “At that time the Lord said unto Joshua, Make thee sharp knives, and circumcise again the children of Israel the second time.” The men represented the children of Israel and were circumcised, while the women were spared. God intended men to be the leaders. He allowed women to be the helpers. Somehow, we as humans have been tricked into minimizing the role the male plays in God’s plan. Yet, God has not changed His plan for the male. At the resurrection at the tomb of Jesus, Mary saw Jesus and was instructed to go tell Jesus’ brethren, John 20:17.

I don’t believe in abuse of any type. I don’t deny that some have taken this to the extreme, “Me Tarzan you Jane.” However, the redeemed of the Lord, who are following their Lord and Savior Jesus Christ, should be able to show the world how men are to lead. As Christian single men, being an example by taking the lead in their finances, in their walk with God, in their role as fathers, and brothers in the Body of Christ.

Thank God for men who are not intimidated by women in business or ministry. Thank God for the man that knows His Father God and makes it his goal to be all that God has called him, as a man, to be in the earth. Thank you fellows for being men. We ladies appreciate you.



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