Is there a difference between the thinking of a 20- or 30-something-year-old single male and a 40- or 50-something never-married single male about getting married? I will share some information on that subject in the next article. In the meanwhile, first, view this film clip released by Columbia Pictures in 1955. Then view the conclusion on the HERS page. It is quite humorous.

Man Praying

Insurmountable and Insignificant

By Justin Coleman

“Then Peter came to Him and said, “Lord, how often shall my brother sin against me, and I forgive him? Up to seven times?” Jesus said to him, “I do not say to you, up to seven times, but up to seventy times seven. Therefore the kingdom of heaven is like a certain king who wanted to settle accounts with his servants. And when he had begun to settle accounts, one was brought to him who owed him ten thousand talents. But as he was not able to pay, his master commanded that he be sold, with his wife and children and all that he had, and that payment is made. The servant, therefore, fell down before him, saying, ‘Master, have patience with me, and I will pay you all.’ Then the master of that servant was moved with compassion, released him, and forgave him the debt.

But that servant went out and found one of his fellow servants who owed him a hundred denarii, and he laid hands on him and took him by the throat, saying, ‘Pay me what you owe!’ So his fellow servant fell down at his feet and begged him, saying, ‘Have patience with me, and I will pay you all.’ And he would not but went and threw him into prison till he should pay the debt. So when his fellow servants saw what had been done, they were very grieved and came and told their master all that had been done. Then his master, after he had called him, said to him, ‘You wicked servant! I forgave you all that debt because you begged me. Should you not also have had compassion on your fellow servant, just as I had pity on you?’ And his master was angry and delivered him to the torturers until he should pay all that was due to him. So My heavenly Father also will do to you if each of you, from his heart, does not forgive his brother his trespasses.” – Matthew 18:21-35 (NKJV) In this passage, Peter asks Jesus how often he is required to forgive his brother. Jesus responds with what is referred to as ‘The Parable of the Unforgiving Servant. The servant owed more than he could ever pay. The amount has been estimated anywhere between a few million dollars up to billions. Suffice it to say that it was an exorbitant amount. The servant begs for mercy, and the king has compassion for him and forgives the debt. That same servant then holds his fellow servant accountable because he owes him a very small amount of money. When the king finds out, he says, “Shouldn’t you have had compassion on your fellow servant, just as I had pity on you?”. The king is the Lord. The servants are you, me, our neighbors, co-workers, aka everybody. The debt is sin, trespasses, doing wrong to someone. Compassion is forgiveness, to set someone free of the debt they owe you. Jesus tells us in verse 23 that this parable gives us insight into what the kingdom of heaven is like. The sin debt that the servant owes to the king is an unimaginably large amount. An amount so large that none of us could ever pay it on our own. We could never pay that debt, so the king paid it himself. God sent Jesus to be the payment for our sins so that He could have compassion and mercy on us, just like the king had compassion for the servant. The fellow-servant owed a very small amount. This shows us that each person has an insurmountable debt of sin between ourselves and God. The debt of sin we have towards each other, by comparison, is insignificant. God had great mercy on us by sending Jesus to pay for our sins so that He could forgive us. In response, He expects us to extend that same loving mercy to those who wrong us in any way. And this parable shows us that no matter how horribly someone might hurt us, it is tiny and insignificant compared to how we have wronged a perfect, holy, loving God who gave us life.

“And be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God in Christ forgave you.” – Ephesians 4:32 (NKJV)


If we keep this perspective on forgiveness, walking in love and forgiveness towards others will become progressively easier. Instead of being offended by small transgressions, we won’t even take account of the wrongs done against us. We will forgive, let it go, and forget it before it even has a chance to bother us. Holding on to unforgiveness, offense, and strife can cause us to be tormented. It is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die. The cure for being offended and feeling tortured in our souls because of what others have done to us is to forgive them.


You might be thinking, ‘that’s easier to say than to do.’ You would be correct. It is not the easiest thing in the world to forgive someone when they have done you great harm and wounded you, whether it’s physical, mental, or emotional. So what can you do if unforgiveness is holding you down and torturing you? Trying harder to forgive isn’t going to work. It’s just going to cause you to be more frustrated. Instead, focus on God’s love and forgiveness towards YOU. The more you see how much God has already forgiven you by sending Jesus to die for your sins, the more you will see how much He loves you. The more you see His love towards you, the freer you will become from all that is unlovely.


The more your heart is filled with a revelation and sense of God’s infinite love towards you, the less room there will be for hurtful things. If your heart is filled with God’s love toward you, there won’t be room for hatred, strife, and bitterness. If you have been deeply wounded by traumatic events, things might not change overnight. But, as you focus on what Jesus did on the cross, paying an insurmountable debt because of His great love toward you, the sins that people have done against you will begin to look smaller, and it will become easier and easier to forgive and let it go. You may not ever forget those traumatic events, but they do not have to haunt you and follow you around like a dark cloud.


Imagine putting a glass of milk in the sink. Turning on the faucet and letting the water slowly pour into the glass of milk. First, it starts to fill up and overflow the sides. As the water continues to flow into the glass, the milk begins to look thinner. Then it starts to look more like cloudy water than milk. If you leave the faucet running, it will eventually flush all of the milk away and be a clear glass of water. It will be so clear that you won’t be able to tell it ever had milk in it. That’s what your heart can be like. If you are being tortured by all of the unforgiveness in your heart, then the only way for it to be washed away is for something else to come and take its place. You need the love of God for you personally to fill your heart so that it washes away all the hurt and unforgiveness so you can live as free as a servant that has been forgiven an insurmountable debt. 

Thank You